Monday, June 14, 2010

Why Adoption?

Adoption has been something I have been passionate about for a long time. I have researched, read blogs, and followed many families during their adoption journey. I always knew that I would adopt one day, I just wasn't sure from where or when. I always thought I would be going to China to adopt a little girl, and if I were 30 years old right now, then that is probably where we would be heading. But I'm not, and won't be for 2 more years. So, we decided domestic adoption would be best for us.

A little back story. When we got married, we had talked about how long we wanted to wait to have children. We thought that 5 years would be a good amount of time to wait. Well, after being married for almost 4 year, I got bit by the baby bug. So we decided to start trying on our 4 year anniversary, May 2008. We were going to Mexico for our anniversary, and I had stopped taking birth control at the beginning of May. My plan was to come home from Mexico pregnant. HA! Well, I didn't get too discouraged about not being pregnant for the first 9 months. Andrew was traveling a lot, and we were just "seeing if it would happen." Then in March, 2009 we got serious about trying. By the way, this whole time, none of our family knew that we were trying. So every time I got asked when we were going to have kids, I would just brush it off. I never thought we would have problems, and so after trying for so long, there just wasn't a right time to tell them. By May of 2009, I thought something might be wrong. My sisters never had any problems getting pregnant, why was it taking us so long. Finally in August, I told my parents. Of course they were shocked and committed the situation to prayer. I also told Andrew's parents what was going on. Then, just a few weeks later, I found out I was pregnant! Complete Shock! We only told our immediate family, but we were so excited. Then, not even two weeks later, I miscarried. I was so broken hearted. But everyone saw this as "at least you know you can get pregnant now." Well, that wasn't what I wanted to hear. Andrew and I decided to give it until January, and then look into testing, and our options. The next few months pasted without any pregnancy, and the entire time, I just wanted to be done with it. I wanted to stop trying, and just move on to Adoption. We both knew that was the next step, but Andrew just wasn't ready to move on to adoption yet. He wanted to give trying our full attention. After some trips to the Dr's office, we decided to give it until May 2010. If I wasn't pregnant by then, we would start the adoption process. We decided to forgo any infertility treatment. They are all very expensive, and if we were going to spend a lot of money, we would rather put it towards definitely getting a baby, then just hoping that the procedure works, and possibly getting a baby.

To answer the question, a lot of people are wondering, I don't know if we can have biological children. From everything we can tell, yes, we should be able to. But for some reason, God is taking us down a different path to parenthood, and we are excited about where HE is leading us.

The whole process is going so much faster then we thought it would. Here is our basic timeline. We made the decision May 1st. I met with two different agencies the second week in May, and decided on which one we wanted to use. Then it was just a matter of filling out paper work, and completing our home study. We had our homestudy June 9th, and got the preliminary approval that night. The only things pending were our background checks. I found out today, that our homestudy is 100% and approved. We are so excited that things are moving quickly, and are just waiting for a phone call to let us know that we have a baby. We don't know when that phone call will come, but MY GOD does know when it will come, and He has it all planned out. It is so nice not worrying about any of this, and having the reassurance that God has a plan, and that He loves us, and nothing has happened, or will happen that will take Him by surprise.


Papa and Grandma Cox said...

Great Blog ! love you and Andrew and the new grandbaby where ever it is !

Anonymous said...

So happy for you Katie! That's great news! God bless you and your new baby to come!

Sara said...

"But for some reason, God is taking us down a different path to parenthood, and we are excited about where HE is leading us."

That was my favorite part!

So, you are definitely 'expecting'. We continue to lift you and your little one up and we love you guys!!